Choosing parent’s dances can prove a challenging task for a couple planning their wedding. Chances are, if you are reading this, you have asked us and we have you referred you to this Blog. The fact is: A DJ Can NOT choose this song for you with accuracy. So instead of giving you a list of songs that you can easily find on Google, I’m going to give you four easy steps to choosing these songs.
Choosing A Parent’s Dance (Father and Daughter/Mother Song)
- Ask the other parent. If you don’t think of a song right off, asking the other parent maintains a level of surprise for when the moment happens and the song plays. The more you incorporate the element of surprise, the better chance you have of knocking your father or mother’s socks off. For example, if you are choosing a song for your Father and Daughter dance, start by asking your mom secretly. She may say that you and your father had a song from when you were a child. If your mother doesn’t come up with anything, proceed to the next step!
- Ask THE Parent. If you have eliminated the element of surprise, then leave it up to the parent in question. So if you are choosing the Father and Daughter dance, then ask you Dad. He may have his heart set on dancing this moment with you to a song. As a father, I think about this moment daily, (more than my own daughter even), and I know what I would choose. Remember, this dance is in tribute and designed to honor that parent. So bringing them into the conversation ensures that the moment will honor them the way they want to be honored.
- If the first two steps turn up nothing, google it. “Father Daughter Dance or Mother Groom Dance” will yield a million lists of songs for the occasion, all sounding about the same. I STRONGLY encourage you to listen to each song on youtube to make sure that it isn’t cheesy. Too much sap can make things out of place.
- If these three steps yield nothing, then it’s time to make an impulse decision. Over thinking a detail for a wedding can sometimes be more toxic to the planning process than not thinking about it at all. You can drive everyone in your circle crazy by obsessing about things that in the grand scheme have nothing to do with your happiness. You can quickly suck the life out of what’s motivating your friends and family who want to provide you a supreme day of happiness. My ‘go to’ song in a crunch for a parent’s dance is “What a Wonderful World’ by Louis Armstrong. It’s a classic and unisex. MOST importantly, it’s 2 Minutes 15 Seconds long.
A DJ, or whatever musical entertainment that you choose, is not personally attached to you or your family in most cases. The Parent’s dance is an ultra-personal event that you must commit serious thought to. As with every detail decision YOU make with your wedding, if you are spending a huge amount of time on it, it’s just time to make a decision. You are taking time away from more important things that deserve your attention. Wedding day is all about the Bride and Groom, remember that you probably have parents who have been looking forward to this day, and your unending happiness, for around a quarter of century. Take it seriously and have fun with it!